Tips To Look After Your Husband 1950 Vs 2020
All these tips you are about to read are from a real Home Economics book in 1950. While it makes for great reading, its hard to image in now when we are far more progressive, and household roles are split more fairly. So below each extract we wrote our own reality for what is the ‘norm’ in 2020. Maybe it would be worth both husband and wife following these rules for a more equal partnership.
Have Dinner Ready
Plan ahead, even the night before, to have a delicious meal ready for your husband. Most men are hungry when they come home and the prospects of a good meal are what’s needed.
2020: We guess chicken nuggets don’t count. Now a days he will be given an option, and if it’s a no, then he can fend for himself. Give them credit they can cook for themselves every now and again.
Prepare Yourself
Take 15 minutes to rest so that you will be refreshed when he arrives. Touch up your make up, put a ribbon in your hair and be fresh looking. He has just been with a lot of work weary people. Be a little more gay and a little more interesting. His boring day may need a lift.
2020: We are just glad to make it through the day in one piece. A messy mum bun is the best it gets, maybe if you’re feeling generous put on your favourite comfy PJs. Really who has time to get dressed up, if you can’t be comfortable around each other whats the point. Take me or leave me how I am.
Clear Away The Clutter
Make one last trip through the main part of the house just before your husband arrives, gathering up schoolbooks, paper, toys etc. Then run a dust cloth over the tables. Your husband will feel he has reached a haven of rest and order, and it will give you a lift too.
2020: Basically just make a huge pile of stuff that you’ve managed to collect together. Leave it at the bottom of the stairs ready for someone to take up. That someone is you. Everyone else will ignore it, or trip over it, before even thinking of moving it.
Prepare The Children
Take a few minutes to wash the children’s hands and faces, comb their hair and if necessary, change their clothes. They are little treasures and he would like to see them playing the part.
2020: A wet wipe can fix anything. A quick wipe of their faces to make them look more hygienic and can make them through the evening until they get a proper wash at bathtime. Treasures are not the word you’d automatically use to describe your kids after a day of snot and screaming, but when bedtime comes and you watch them soundly asleep you appreciate how precious they are.
Minimise All Noise
At the time of his arrival, eliminate all noise of washer, dishwasher or vacuum. Try to encourage the children to be quiet. Be happy to see him. Greet him with a warm smile and be glad to see him.
2020: Fairly impossible seeing as the little gremlins only have 1 noise level, loud! You’ve had to hear them screeching and shouting at each other all day, it’s only fair he gets to hear what they get up to. You don’t want him missing out.
Some Don’ts
Don’t greet him with problems or complaints. Don’t complain if he’s late for dinner. Count this as minor compared with what he might have gone through that day.
2020: What is the point of being married if you can’t offload on your other half. Plus IMO if you don’t complain about what he’s done wrong, how will he know for next time.
Make Him Comfortable
Have him lean back in a comfortable chair or suggest he lie down in the bedroom. Have a cool or warm drink ready for him. Arrange his pillow and offer to take off his shoes. Speak in a low, soft, soothing, pleasant voice. Allow him to relax – unwind.
2020: Basically you’re not allowed to relax. Ha
Listen To Him
You may have things to tell him but the moment of his arrival is not the time. Let him talk first.
2020: Reality is you’ve had a day of kids and chaos so just need to let of steam by rambling like a mad person about all the stuff you’ve had to handle throughout the day, or how much your boss is a pain. If you’ve had to deal with it, he has to hear about it. Caring is sharing.
Make The Evening His
Never complain if he does not take you out to dinner. Instead try to understand his world of strain and pressure, his need to come home and relax.
2020: As soon as he comes through the door its Dads turn. You’ve had it all day, so now its fair game. Obviously nowadays in most households both parents work so it’s like passing ships in the night, if he can make time for a boys night, he can make time for you.
The Goal
Try to make your home a place of peace and order where your husband can renew himself in body and spirit.
2020: In other words, don’t fight. But we feel like he knows that none of this is a reality and he doesn’t expect it to be. Family life is crazy, with lots of different parenting set ups. As long as your BOTH happy, you’ve struck gold.
What do you think of these Tips To Look After Your Husband? Do you follow a more old school approach or are you grateful things are a lot more equal nowadays. Lets be honest all those tips sound exhausting and a lot to live up to!
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